Among the biggest problems people have in attaining their Aims is they get frustrated, distracted or diverted from the final result. Given the amount of cultural noise the majority of us experience these days, it can be extremely tough to focus on what has to be done. I find myself torn in several directions, less because I am attempting to do than having valid responsibilities that pop up.
For lots of us we try to power through what is happening. We attempt to get it all done at exactly the exact same time it would take to do a quarter of what is landed on our plates. We attempt to go it alone. We work long hours and be tired, not able to get anything done, much less all of it.
In these situations the frequent element is often that we are working alone. We are working on our Aims alone. We are working on our duties alone. We are working on the solutions independently. That’s among the worst things we could do, even if we do not have any excess stuff competing for our attention.
Here’s three reasons why working alone can ruin your Success.
You don’t have any support system. Working on your own Goals without external support or help keeps means you are subject to all of the ups and downs and emotional insecurities with somebody to keep you grounded. Some people can manage this type of thing alone, but it is too easy to get sucked down a path of negative thoughts and paralyzing anxiety.
You don’t have any one to hold you liable. Success is often composed of small, consistent daily activities that you continue doing, day after day and week after week. When something happens to dissuade you, it’s easy to bypass those everyday actions today. It’s easy to take a couple of days off to break free from the stress. What kills it isn’t getting back in the saddle then break. It is too easy to allow the break become the standard, not the exception. For those who have somebody that holds you accountable to your everyday actions, it’s more difficult to disappoint them than take it on your own.
You don’t have any one to bounce ideas off of. You may think that’s not important. After all, you have got your targets and your Roadmap, You are motivated and ready. Too often though our ideas and plans have holes because we just can not see them. We made them, but we generally only see the advantages that go together or result from such plans and ideas. Somebody who’s a sounding board for you may frequently see what you can not. They are not emotionally invested and they frequently bring a different life experience when looking at your plans. That type of experience is valuable when you’re getting started. It can help you to avoid issues that would otherwise delay or completely derail your plans and future Success.
Unless you are a hermit or a desert monk, you are normally surrounded by those who support you, hold you accountable and will assist you with your own ideas. If you are in a union, then it is most likely your partner. If you work in a regular job, it is your boss and co-workers. If you are in school, it is your teachers, professors and fellow students.
For many it is probably fear. We are afraid others will attempt to hold us back. We are afraid we will be laughed at or ridiculed for what we are trying to do. This can bleed over to our everyday lives also, but for the most part, we do not work on our marriage, family or job by ourselves. We recognize that we are part of a bigger whole and need support from others.